A Super Short Blog About Being More Selfish


I just saw an article in Runners World that said people need to be “selfish” about their running time. While I agree with the article for the most part, the headline didn’t sit well with me.

I think it was the word “selfish.” I don’t like that word. But I have noticed that people use it all the time to describe either themselves or others.

I prefer to think that we all need to place rock solid boundaries around the time we dedicate to self-care. That means all of it. Our exercise time, our bath time, our time to prepare ourselves healthy meals and snacks. We need to stop thinking that taking time for ourselves is being selfish!

It is not selfish its necessary.

We need to remember that out kids are watching and learning from us. What lesson do we want our kids to learn about being an adult, a mom or a dad, a woman or a man? Do we want them to continually sacrifice for others thinking that any act of self-care is selfish? No! Chances are we want a healthier life for our kids’ than we are willing to create for ourselves.

And that is just sad.

That’s why in my life coaching business, I help people prioritize themselves in their life. This teaches our children (and jobs, partners, etc) appropriate boundaries and that is NEVER a bad thing.

So, regardless of what you call it, either selfish or having boundaries, lets do MORE of it. Me? I am going to spend some time with a hot cup of tea on this frigid February day! What are YOU going to do?

I hope this blog gave you a better understanding of the importance of self-care! Let me know if you’d like a FREE consultation to see if life coaching can help YOU develop stronger, rock-solid boundaries.

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Twin Cities Life Coaching is passionate about self-care. If we don't take care of ourselves first, how do we expect to care well for others in our lives?

Think of the oxygen mask in an airplane. The instructions given to you before taking flight insist that if there is a change in cabin pressure, we are to put on our own mask BEFORE we assist others with theirs.

Our hectic, over-scheduled, over-worked lives push us to meet everyone else's needs and deadlines before our own. We have it backwards and need to take an airplane oxygen mask approach instead.

Take care of yourself first, and the rest will follow.

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